Q&A: I am sexually attracted to a co-worker but I am married. Any help?

Q: I am sexually attracted to a co-worker but I am married. Any help?



A: Sexual attraction in the office is readily combustible and usually hard to resist or extinguish once the fires start to go raging. These things, especially when prolonged, rarely stay, neat, sweet and discrete. The married partner, in spite of assurances to the contrary, rarely leaves his or her spouse (it could be for many reasons, due to psychological to financial). The married one is usually acting out his or her anger toward the spouse with an affair; typically it's better to confront the problems in your marriage, then decide if you are able to make the marriage work and start over or not.

Q&A: Do Couples Need To Be “In Love"?

Q: Do Couples Need To Be “In Love"?

A: Such in-love experience is a significant part of the relationship. I find that couples who don’t have that simply share a common interest, build a friendship and eventually get married.

For the most part, they will be tempted outside the marriage when they do find an in-love experience with somebody else. Considering they didn’t have it in their original relationship, they are more likely to bail out of that relationship.

The "In love" experience is a must but it doesn’t have to be the first thing on the agenda. It can come after establishing friendship.