Sunday, December 8, 2013
Q: My boyfriend for a year and a half says he loves me. He even brings up topics like marrying me. Then, all of a sudden, he says he doesn't want me and says no to commitment and romantic feelings. Then we fall back into it again and he introduces me to family. I’m so confused and hurt.
A: He may be commitment-phobic. This can drive you crazy. It seems that he doesn't have a solid sense of himself. It could be that he doesn’t feel good about his career. Furthermore, this instability could set off a mood-disorder radar system. He may have some underlying depression.
If he indeed suffers from depression and not getting the right therapy, this cycle will continue. It’s a bright idea not to return his calls, but if you do feel unfinished psychologically, you could maybe write him a letter. Express your hurt and anger. And you could suggest depression counseling for him.
Thursday, December 5, 2013
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Sunday, December 1, 2013
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
Thursday, November 28, 2013
Monday, November 25, 2013
"There is often a taboo linked to miscarriage -- one that shouldn’t be there. Women don’t want to talk about their miscarriage experience for many reasons. Usually because it’s a personal and painful experience, and there is often self-blame involved (plus other people can be insensitive)."